Why You Need to Break Your Family’s Dysfunctional Cycle ASAP
Updated January 2023: I’m so glad you’re here and taking steps towards healing. I do have a series of articles on reparenting but want to be upfront that I’m in a place in my healing journey where I’ve moved away from talking about narcissistic traits in others and I’m currently focusing solely on expansion and what brings me joy. I’ve moved away from the textbooks and have jumped headfirst back into shadow work art (my original healing medium) mixed with a newfound interest in mushrooms. If the thought of using art and mushrooms to find peace outside of your family’s dysfunctions excites you then definitely do poke around. Sending you luck on your journey, friend.
We all do it: set lofty long-term goals, only to realize that we’ve let them slip out of our hands and turn into long-lost dreams of the past. But you cannot let cycle breaking become one of those lost goals.
Instead, you need to prioritize cycle breaking and break your family’s dysfunctional cycle as soon as possible. Here’s why.
Life is short.
It’s so important to remember that life is too short to keep waiting. We only get one shot to live, so why not put your effort into making the changes you want to see and creating the life you want to live?
Waiting to break the cycle will only take up time, not prepare you or soften the blow—and eventually, you’ll realize you lost all that time when you could have just started.
The sooner you break the cycle, the sooner you take control of your life.
If you’re not making progress, you’re falling behind.
Cycle breaking is about behavior. The more you do something—whether it’s healthy or toxic—it becomes ingrained in your mind. So, if you’re not moving towards a healthier life, you’re probably settling into a toxic one.
The damage is still being done.
A lot of times, the people who hurt do so because they themselves are in a hurt place. If you continue to engage in the toxic cycle, they will keep hurting you—and you might keep hurting them, too.
So, don’t let them keep you stuck in the cycle. To grow, you need to turn away from those who hurt you and towards those who support you with healthy love. As you heal, you can give back the validation and love you received to those who need it most.
There’s never a “right” time.
Some people are just waiting for the right time—well, there isn’t one. Waiting doesn’t make it easier. You can always make excuses for yourself, but at the end of the day, you need to see them for what they are: excuses, not reasons.
Your life, your health, and your relationships are waiting.
When you choose to break the cycle, you prioritize a healthy life with healthy relationships and well-regulated emotions. So, why keep waiting? It’s time to break your dysfunctional family cycle now.