Should I Go No Contact with My Narcissistic Mother?

Updated January 2023: I’m so glad you’re here and taking steps towards healing. I do have a series of articles on reparenting but want to be upfront that I’m in a place in my healing journey where I’ve moved away from talking about narcissistic traits in others and I’m currently focusing solely on expansion and what brings me joy. I’ve moved away from the textbooks and have jumped headfirst back into shadow work art (my original healing medium) mixed with a newfound interest in mushrooms. If the thought of using art and mushrooms to find peace outside of your family’s dysfunctions excites you then definitely do poke around. Sending you luck on your journey, friend.

If you’re reading this blog, searching should I go no contact with my narcissistic mother, the answer to your question is probably yes.


Why People are Held Back from Going No Contact

In healthy families where parents and children foster supportive, loving relationships, no one is searching online to see if they should go no contact. If you’re on the fence about going no contact with your toxic mother or parent, what’s preventing you is likely guilt or fear.

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Many people believe that going no contact with a parent is betrayal—and your mother may have reinforced that idea by saying things like:

  • What would I do without you?

  • After all I’ve done for you!

  • I don’t deserve this!

  • You’re so selfish/ungrateful.

  • You’re just doing this to hurt me. 

Toxic parents may also say things like:

  • You’re too sensitive.

  • I never said/did that!

  • I’m sorry, BUT…

  • You don’t mean that.

  • It was a joke!


Push Past the Guilt Trips and Manipulation to Go No Contact with Your Mom

Toxic parents often manipulate us into staying around through feelings of guilt and obligation. They’ll pressure you to do things you don’t want to do, such as help them with things after you’ve said no or spend time with them after you’ve expressed you want to leave.

If you’re unaware of the emotional abuse taking place, it can be virtually impossible to break free from this toxic cycle. But you need to if you want to stay sane.

You’ve betrayed yourself long enough. Going no contact with family isn’t wrong or immoral when it’s the best thing you can do for your mental health and wellbeing.

If you’re still on the fence about going no contact with your parents, check out “7 Reasons You Should Go No Contact with Your Narcissistic Mother.”

Kya Nguyen